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The Imperfects

The Imperfects

We’re all imperfect. On this podcast, founder of The Resilience Project Hugh van Cuylenburg, his good friend Ryan Shelton, and only one of their brothers, Josh van Cuylenburg, talks to a variety of interesting people who vulnerably share their own struggles and imperfections, or expertly pass on their wisdom on the subject of imperfection. Whether it’s in The Vulnerabilitea House, The Academy of Imperfection, or with our very own psychologist, Dr Emily, The Imperfects are here to find some valuable takeaways we can all apply to our own imperfect lives.

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34 min•
Thursday

Surprise! You’re Writing A Book!

B b b bonus episode! We proudly present to you My Imperfect Life: a novel journal written by you. That’s right, we’re releasing a book, but making you do all the work. With 100 questions inspired by episodes from 2024 on The Imperfects, My Imperfect Life is an introduction to vulnerability, allowing you to unpack your own imperfect life and be more vulnerable with yourself (because we know vulnerability with others can be A LOT). To celebrate the launch of My Imperfect Life, we are inviting you to a reverse book singing at Readings Emporium Melbourne on Friday January 31st at 5:30pm, where we want to meet you, the author (and perhaps get a photo with you too, and maybe an autograph if you’re not too busy). 🎟️ To buy a ticket to the Reverse Book Signing (which includes a copy of My Imperfect Life that you will pick up on the day), follow this link – https://bit.ly/4hh0tcl 📖 To just purchase My Imperfect Life, click here – https://www.theimperfects.com.au/shop/  📃 To become our penpal, join The VulnerabiliTea-mail, a weekly newsletter where we’ll send you one vulnerable question inspired by the current episode, to help you unpack your own imperfect life. Subscribe at theimperfects.com.au 🎧 Things to listen to Nathan Cavaleri – The Ups & The Blues - https://apple.co/42aTmh6 Michael Klim – The Race of His Life - https://bit.ly/4aiMyQr Rana Hussain – Belonging For Connection - https://apple.co/3NwftWC  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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1 hr, 3 min•
Sunday

Bronnie Ware - What Are Your Future Regrets?

There will come a time for all of us (unless we REALLY make some improvements with bio-hacking) where we are faced with our own mortality. Who is at your hypothetical bedside? Are you happy with how you’ve lived? Do you have any regrets? In this Summer School edition of the Academy of Imperfection, we are joined by Bronnie Ware. Bronnie found herself in palliative care, caring for, and listening to, the dying. And boy, are we glad she did. Bronnie collated, and published, the Top 5 Regrets of the Dying (listed below for your convenience), and this episode is devoted to talking through what each of these might mean for Hugh, Ryan and Josh. I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me I wish I hadn’t worked so hard I wish I’d had the courage to express my feelings I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends I wish that I had let myself be happier Perfectly timed for the New Year, we hope you get as much out of this episode as we did. Bronnie, thank you so much for sharing your wisdom with us. To watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link: https://www.theimperfects.com.au/episode/bronnie-ware-wha…r-future-regrets/ 📖 Things to read: The Top Five Regrets of the Dying - Bronnie Ware - https://bit.ly/4ghIKkf Bronnie’s original blog post - Regrets of the Dying - https://bit.ly/4f2nmPd From Strength to Strength - Arthur C. Brooks - https://bit.ly/3BlahT1 Strong Female Character - Fern Brady - https://bit.ly/3Vl5Uya Laughing Heart - Charles Bukowski - https://bit.ly/4g2DbGL 🎧 Things to listen to: Paul Kelly - I Wasted Time - https://bit.ly/4eZeWbc Fern Brady - Autistic in a Non-Autistic World - https://bit.ly/48nT3Ax See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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27 min•
22 Dec 24

Little Boy Christmas - The Forgotten Son of Mr & Mrs Claus

Quick heads up: Little Boy Christmas has a tenuous relationship with his parents, and therefore, this episode isn’t suited for kids. Have you ever wondered about Little Boy Christmas, the forgotten son of Santa and Mrs Claus? Nope, neither had we. That’s probably why he’s forgotten. Looking like an unbelievably shredded Dickensian orphan (you’re going to want to watch the YouTube for this one), Little Boy Christmas chats to Hugh, Ryan and Josh about the physical and psychological pressures of being in the most famous family in the world.  A BIG thank you to Guy Montgomery who introduced us to Little Boy Christmas. All ad revenue from this episode will be donated to Guy Montgomery’s chosen charity of Auckland City Mission. Auckland City Mission responds to poverty, aiming to help people find permanent housing and food. If you’d like to donate, or check out what they’re about, follow this link - https://bit.ly/3VB0dfM 🎧Things to listen to: Mrs Claus - Santa’s Better Half - https://bit.ly/4gns2zX Santa Claus - A Special Vulnerabilitea House - https://apple.co/40Y7HNs Guy’s podcast - The Worst Idea of All Time - https://apple.co/3DkUYKI 📺 Things to watch: Guy Montgomery’s Guy Mont Spelling Bee - https://ab.co/4izbmay 🎟️ Things to buy tickets to: I’ve Noticed So Many Things, It’d Be Unfair To Keep Them To Myself tour Australian Tickets - https://bit.ly/3DczzDx NZ Tickets - https://bit.ly/49BCuC4 See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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15 Dec 24

Michael Theo - Life on the Spectrum

You may know Michael from Love on the Spectrum, or his podcast Mr A+, or even his appearance on Ellen – he’s done it all and has gained an incredible amount of wisdom on his journey so far. We’ve been doing this show for six years, and no-one has ever summarised it as well as Michael Theo: trying to be perfect is a wild goose chase. In this episode, Hugh, Ryan and Josh chat to Michael about how he found his voice after growing up as a non-verbal kid, and instils on the guys some advice on how to handle nerves (and do some proper improv). Michael, we had an absolute blast. We’ll see you for a Yowie sometime soon. If you want to watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link: https://youtu.be/eVtYKdJUpVU 🎧 Things to listen to: Mr. A+ - https://apple.co/3C3kS5i Fern Brady - Autistic in a Non-Autistic World - https://apple.co/48nT3Ax Grace Tame - “Sexy, Scissoring, Autism!” - https://apple.co/404jXv7 Jackson Tozer - Don’t Give Up On Me - https://apple.co/3yHdawf Jack Steele - Socials Anxiety - https://apple.co/41jNSjL Janelle Booker - Living With ADHD - https://apple.co/41nL456 Santa Claus - A Special Vulnerabilitea House - https://bit.ly/40Y7HNs Mrs Claus - Santa’s Better Half - https://apple.co/4gns2zX 📺 Things to watch: Love On The Spectrum - https://ab.co/48r5iwb Austin - https://ab.co/4eYmvQl Michael’s Interview on Ellen - https://bit.ly/4eXRYBX Puss In Boots - The Last Wish - https://bit.ly/4foCuqF 📱Things to check out: Wable - https://www.hellowable.com See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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1 hr, 28 min•
8 Dec 24

Layne Beachley - Surf’s Up… And Down

Today we welcome into the studio 7 time world champion surfer, and all-round legend, Layne Beachley. Layne, who had the self-described ‘compassion of a tiger shark’ during her competition days, has lived an incredible journey to learn how to love others, and more importantly, herself. Upon discovering that she was adopted, Layne internalised a fear of rejection and intense need to prove herself. What’s one way to prove yourself, you may ask? Becoming a world champion, no matter the cost. In this episode, Hugh, Ryan and Josh talk to Layne about the narrative that she created for herself, and how this affected her self-worth, body image and relationships. There is SO MUCH good stuff in this episode, and we can’t wait for you to enjoy your day at the Beach(ley). Layne, you are an absolute legend. Thank you for your generous vulnerability. If you would like to watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link - https://bit.ly/3VsnIrd ALSO if you would like to buy tickets to Josh’s gig (!!!!!) click here - https://bit.ly/3ZO6ojf 📖 Things to read: Awake Academy - Layne Beachley and Tess Brouwer - https://bit.ly/4fNThEh Beneath the Waves - Michael Gordon with Layne Beachley - https://bit.ly/410jgU2 From Strength to Strength - Arthur C Brooks - https://bit.ly/3VCaZTD Build the Life You Want - Arthur C Brooks and Oprah Winfrey - https://amzn.to/3ZpgFAK ☕️Places to get coffee (and find your laptop cover): Aegyo Cafe - https://bit.ly/3BqMNMi See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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1 hr, 26 min•
1 Dec 24

Johann Hari - Beware The Thrill of The Magic Pill

Johann Hari is a prolific author, deep thinker, and seasoned guest of The Imperfects. In this episode, Johann takes the guys on a deep dive into the Western food system, and how processed food has completely derailed our nutritional wisdom. Our relationship with food is a very personal one, and Johann and Josh get vulnerable about how they have used food to manage emotions. They discuss how vanity comes into play, the plethora of risks and benefits to the new weight-loss drug like Ozempic, and if their introduction of could derail any notion of self-acceptance. This episode does discuss eating disorders and suicidal ideation so tread carefully, and only listen to this episode when you’re ready. Johann, it is always a pleasure. This is a big and tricky conversation, and we thank you for having it with us. To watch the full episode on YouTube, follow this link - https://youtu.be/2rcWI8zSOvE  🎧 Things to listen to: Johann Hari - The Importance of Connection - https://apple.co/4fE5V8n Johann Hari - Why You Can’t Pay Attention - https://apple.co/4flaoMG Johann Hari (P1 1) - How Can We Change? - https://apple.co/40liAIJ Johann Hari (Pt 2) - Why Do We Do What We Do? - https://apple.co/3UokTH2 📖 Things to read: The Magic Pill by Johann Hari - https://bit.ly/3NHoyw1 Johann’s other books - https://johannhari.com 💻Things to look into: Prof. Tracey Mann research into dieting - https://bit.ly/4eKbDEB Bee Wilson’s research into baby food - https://bit.ly/3ZtpklZ Dr. Paul Kenny research into the obesity - https://bit.ly/3ZbtZsm The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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