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The Imperfects

The Imperfects

We’re all imperfect. On this podcast, founder of The Resilience Project Hugh van Cuylenburg, his good friend Ryan Shelton, and only one of their brothers, Josh van Cuylenburg, talks to a variety of interesting people who vulnerably share their own struggles and imperfections, or expertly pass on their wisdom on the subject of imperfection. Whether it’s in The Vulnerabilitea House, The Academy of Imperfection, or with our very own psychologist, Dr Emily, The Imperfects are here to find some valuable takeaways we can all apply to our own imperfect lives.

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Lauren Zonfrillo - Grief: The Shittest Greatest Gift

Lauren Zonfrillo knows grief - intimately, devastatingly, and meaningfully. Almost two years since the sudden death of her husband Jock, Lauren describes grief as the ‘shittest, greatest gift’, and how she navigated unimaginable loss while continuing to parent two young children. In this episode, Lauren shares what she learnt about herself in the days, weeks, and months since Jock’s passing. Discussing with Hugh, Ryan and Josh about her evolving relationship with spirituality, Lauren vulnerably shares how she is beginning to reconcile her identity as a mother, widow, and person in her own right. Lauren, thank you for such a special episode. If you would like to watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link: https://bit.ly/4mi4mkD  📖 Things to read: Till Death Do Us Part - Lauren Zonfrillo - https://bit.ly/4m7Dy6z Last Shot - Jock Zonfrillo - https://bit.ly/4iCyfJi Finding Meaning - David Kessler - https://amzn.to/44QgNNU ☎️ If you, or someone you know, is struggling with grief, these are some great resources to start with National Centre for Childhood Grief - https://bit.ly/4iEMvkP Griefline - 1300 845 745 🩷To host your own Vulnerabilitea House, purchase the Vulnerabilitea House Cards here - https://bit.ly/3Cx4tGP 🩵To purchase our journal (or your novel) My Imperfect Life, click here - https://bit.ly/3Cx4tGP 🩷To subscribe to the Vulnerabilitea-mail weekly newsletter, join through our website - www.theimperfects.com.au 🩵To join our patreon community, A Little More Imperfect, follow this link - patreon.com/theimperfects The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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27 Apr

Hugh’s ADHD…brief (Bonus From Patreon)

It’s the episode we’ve all been waiting for – a peek inside Hugh’s brain. After our episode with psychologist and ADHD expert Janelle Booker - and a reboot of his algorithm that Hugh related to on a spiritual level - Hugh began to wonder whether his time-blindness, reject sensitivity and inability to focus on things he wasn’t interested in, could be explained by ADHD. Turns out, yeah. Hugh pretty much definitely has ADHD. Exploring Hugh’s lived experience, Ryan and Josh chat through how Hugh has reconciled his incredible frustrations into acknowledgment and celebration for his strengths. This episode is a snippet from an A Little More Imperfects Patreon episode: a place where we publish fortnightly bonus episode, early access to tickets and talk to our community about upcoming guests, bonus content and what they want to see more of. If you would like to become a member of our Patreon community, follow this link: www.patreon.com/theimperfects To watch this full episode on YouTube, click here: https://bit.ly/4cGOPpO 🫖 Other Imperfects episodes mentioned in this episode Janelle Booker - Living with ADHD - https://bit.ly/42GsmEJ 💻 Things to check out Alex Patridge - 12 Lie People with ADHD tell themselves - ttps://bit.ly/41cHcnd Alex Patridge - How to understand ADHD Overwhelm in 35 seconds - https://bit.ly/4jWRq22 📺 Things to watch Celeste Barber’s Australian Story - Unfiltered - https://ab.co/42l6VsD 🩷To host your own Vulnerabilitea House, purchase the Vulnerabilitea House Cards here - https://bit.ly/3Cx4tGP 🩵To purchase our journal (or your novel) My Imperfect Life, click here - https://bit.ly/3Cx4tGP 🩷To subscribe to the Vulnerabilitea-mail weekly newsletter, join through our website - www.theimperfects.com.au The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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1 hr, 35 min
20 Apr

Simon Hill - Eating Imperfectly vs Perfectly Eating

Chasing the ‘perfect’ diet is a trap; which is really great news for our brand. Simon Hill, nutritionist, physiotherapist, and host of The Proof podcast, joins us in the Academy of Imperfection to break down whether the latest dietary trends on social media actually match up with nutrition science. In this episode, Simon unpacks the role of both genetics and lifestyle choices in shaping our health, and specifically our risk of disease. Acknowledging the pressure, and sometimes shame, that comes with chasing the ‘perfect’ diet, Hugh, Ryan, and Josh discuss how to encourage kids to build positive relationships with food, and the incredible significance of ‘joy’ and ‘human connection’, that occurs when we get together to eat. And then, of course, we play Simon Says and bust some food-myths about supplements, plant protein, and whether breakfast is the most important meal of the day. Simon, thank you for all that you says. To watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link: https://bit.ly/4jyH2NL  🫖 Other Imperfects episodes mentioned in this episode: Felice Jacka - Food For Thought - https://apple.co/4ciWgn5 Professor Tim Spector - Food Fight - https://apple.co/3OjRlXR Maria Ruberto - Sleep Your Way to Your Top - https://bit.ly/3E3flgi 📖 Things to read: The Proof is in the Plants - Simon Hill - https://bit.ly/4lbj7VC The Skeptics’ Guide To The Universe - Steven Novella - https://bit.ly/3QUPYjI 🎧Things to listen to: The Proof with Simon Hill - https://bit.ly/3XCCDjS The Proof - Menopause masterclass (Part 1) - https://bit.ly/42aAoXC The Proof - Your menopause questions answered (Part 2) - https://apple.co/4cx0MhW 💻Things to research: Approx. 50% of cardiac deaths are sudden cardiac deaths 50% - https://bit.ly/4juCffP 30 different plants a week study - https://bit.ly/3XIXORj To know more about ApoB, and it’s link to cholesterol - https://bit.ly/42mRL6b & https://bit.ly/426dVLe The Mind Diet - https://bit.ly/42p3zFd Mediterranean Diet - https://bit.ly/4cPqBKp To know more about the Carnivore diet - https://bit.ly/3RcMZmR & https://bit.ly/426xvqT Creatine and cognition - https://bit.ly/4j8sd4e Impact of creatine on depression and CBT - https://bit.ly/3G401AL Impact of creatine on bone health for menopausal women - https://bit.ly/4cuahym & https://bit.ly/424KxoD Impact of creatine on sleep deprivation - https://go.nature.com/4cvR0wC Simon’s Prebiotics - 38TERA - https://bit.ly/4caa96Q 🍎Use code THEIMPERFECTS for $10 off your first order with 38TERA (not sponsored at all, Simon’s just a really nice guy). 🦋If this conversation has raised some uncomfortable feelings for you around eating and food, these are some great resources to find support: Eating Disorders Families Australia - https://bit.ly/3TLU7J5 The Butterfly Foundation - https://bit.ly/48YCSZe 🩷If you want A Little More Imperfects, join our Patreon to get just that - www.patreon.com/theimperfects 🩵To purchase our journal (or your novel) My Imperfect Life, click here - https://bit.ly/3Cx4tGP 🩷To subscribe to the Vulnerabilitea-mail weekly newsletter, join through our website - www.theimperfects.com.au The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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1 hr, 16 min
13 Apr

Courtney Ugle - Intergenerational Strength

Trauma ran through Courtney Ugle’s family - until it ran into her. CEO and founder of Waangkiny, as well as a football superstar, Courtney is on a mission to transform her adversity into resilience, power, and love. In our Vulnerabilitea House, Courtney answers the question, “what childhood challenges best prepared you for adulthood?”, diving into how she copes with the loss of her greatest source of unconditional love and support, and how this drives the work that she does today. In conversation with Hugh, Ryan and Josh, Courtney speaks to the raw intersection of grief and joy, and what it is like to realise that the only person coming to save you, is you. Courtney, we can’t wait to have an oat magic with you soon. If you want to watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link: https://youtu.be/G_Rdt1EhA0U If you would like to host your own Vulneratilitea House, you can purchase the cards here - https://bit.ly/3Cx4tGP 💻 Things to checkout: Waangkiny - https://www.waangkiny.com 📺 Things to watch: Once Were Warriors - https://bit.ly/3XPMxyJ 🚨If you, or someone you know, has experienced or is at risk of domestic violence, call the 24 hour national counselling service 1800RESPECT (1800 737 732). In an emergency, or if you’re feeling unsafe, call 000.  🩷If you want A Little More Imperfects, join our Patreon to get just that - www.patreon.com/theimperfects 🩵To purchase our journal (or your novel) My Imperfect Life, click here - https://bit.ly/3Cx4tGP 🩷To subscribe to the Vulnerabilitea-mail weekly newsletter, join through our website - www.theimperfects.com.au This episode of The Imperfects discusses domestic and family violence. If these topics are too much for you right now, then we suggest you skip this one and come back when you're ready.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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1 hr, 22 min
6 Apr

Dr Emily - How to Be Leaned On

Chances are, you’ve supported someone going through a tough time. And while the meaning sustains the sacrifice, today we want to support you ….. supporting them. A bit of support inception, if you will. To guide us through this incredibly complex and meaningful topic is our resident psychologist, Dr Emily Musgrove. Navigating relationships requires awareness. Showing up as a partner, friend, parent, or sibling while holding space for pain – without being overwhelmed – is a skill that takes practice. Reminding us that no one hates their struggle more than the person suffering, Dr Em delves into some practical strategies of support, such as walking the line between respect and care, as well as always understanding the difference between effort and capacity. To all of the supporters and carers listening, we see you. We love you. And we hope you felt held, too. To watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link - https://bit.ly/3XILzEe To pre-order Dr. Em’s book Unstuck, click here - https://bit.ly/4bhmCp2 🎧 Other Imperfects episodes mentioned in this episode Dr Emily - Resent Less, Live More - https://apple.co/4hZiVWx Esther Perel - Let’s Be Better Lovers - https://bit.ly/42phpsh 💻Things to check out: Carer Gateway - https://bit.ly/41UEJhA 🩷If you want A Little More Imperfects, join our Patreon to get just that - www.patreon.com/theimperfects 🩵To purchase our journal (or your novel) My Imperfect Life, click here - https://bit.ly/3Cx4tGP 🩷To subscribe to the Vulnerabilitea-mail weekly newsletter, join through our website - www.theimperfects.com.au The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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